Run away girls in Saudi

[Orignally Posted December 16 2005]

Talk about a "perfect" "equal rights" "islamic" "women respecting" society...Bullshit..

such things are common occurance in Saudi Arabia. A typical Saudi male mind is nothing but full with prejudice and hatred towards women classifying them as "evil creation" and object or sexual satisfaction only. Lets recall the famous Hadith's "women are created for men pleasure".

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NUMBER OF RUNAWAY GIRLS INCREASES

Source: Saudi Gazette
Comments in BLUE text
By Sabria S. Jawhar
The Saudi Gazette
JEDDAH/MADINA

SITTING in a far corner with her back to one of the Prophet Mosque s pillar praying and reading the Qur an, the young woman was covering almost half of her face with her headscarf and holding the holy book close to her face in an attempt to hide it from people around her.
As a habit in the Prophet s Mosque, people in Madinah offer coffee and dates to those who are sitting around them between prayer times. A stranger walked up to her offered her a cup of coffee.

The young woman stretched her hand with a smile that showed a perfect set of teeth and looked with her wide dark brown eyes.

Thank you, I cannot drink coffee. I have a stomach ache, she said with a tearful smile. At that moment she told her story to a stranger about her tears and the injury to her right cheek.
Seham is 25 and by any standard extremely beautiful. Unlike other women her age, her beauty has never been a grace. On the contrary, it has been a curse, she said.

Some times when I look at the mirror I feel that I want to burn my face just to live a normal life like the rest of the girls at my age, she said.

Wherever Seham goes, she hears the praise and the looks of admiration that follow her even among the women. Her father s recognition of her beauty has made him put more pressure on her than on her sisters.

He chases me whereever I go and suspects each phone call that I receive, she said, Even my younger brothers have been turned into spies on me.
Her father used to call her the daughter of devil because each time she goes out with him for shopping he has an argument with the men who try to tease her or even follow her with their eyes.

To rid himself of this burden, her father got her married when she was only 17 years old. The husband was not much better than the father as he called her names and accused her of tempting his brother. After five years of torture she asked for divorce and went back to her family s home.

This time, according to my father s point of view, I am only a divorced beautiful young woman who can commit any sin without anyone knowing. Simply I am not a virgin anymore, she said.
The treatment got worse with her father beating her on the face. One day, the phone rang and a man whom she does not know asked for her by name. The father woke her up in the middle of the night beating with a stick.

I did not know why until later. So I waited till they all fell asleep and I ran to my friend s house for two weeks, she said.

The family reported her missing to the police that eventually found her and held her in custody until the father came to take her.

I could see the rage in his eyes despite the police officer s attempts to calm him down, she said.
Runaway girls have become a phenomenon in Saudi society that specialists are taking a keen interest in. Last year a study by the Ministry of Interior had shown that there are 3,285 reported cases of running away or absence in Saudi Arabia. Among those cases, 850 young girls and women were reported as runaways.

The continuing problem is accompanied with child abuse and has pushed the Saudi government to tackle these issues publicly. The government also has begun issuing related decrees like a social protection shelter for runaway girls or those who are subject to physical or sexual abuse.

Wafaa Sa di, head of the Social Protection Department at the Ministry of Social Affair and the director of the Social Protection Shelter in Jeddah, attributes the runaways to being exposed to the outside world through satellite channels.
Yeah right blame everything on the internet and satellite TV channels. You are good in running a "Ministry for Bullshiting". Humans do not need Internet or satellite TV to teach them right to respect and freedom.

Those satellite channels have entered the Saudi houses and taught the girls not to tolerate anything from their parents, Sa di said. It taught them that there are human rights associations and that they should not stand whatever their parents do to them.
As i said, presence of satllite channels does not matter when it comes to human right. But the point your are trying to make here is more like "due to advancement of satellite channels and internet, we are losing control over abusing our women and they are standing against it". When there is abuse, there is a rebellion.

The director of the shelter said she believes that beating sometimes is a good way to educate and discipline children who should tolerate their parents temper.
Yeah talk about abusive parents bitch, i think your husband should beat you in submisson so you will give him a blow job.

She said domestic violence is not the main reason behind the increasing percentage of runaway girls. On the contrary, she said, imitating the West is the cause of those family problems that lead girls to run away. Children, she explained, learn new values that contradict those of their society then try to implement them, which leads to confrontation.
Bullshiting is a typical Saudi trait, to blame everything on west. Get the point bitch, beating your women and kids is not accecptable. Its abusive. I wonder what kind of qualification you have.

Parents are always noble, she said, Even when they beat, they do that for education.
Ohh how great, a father acusses the girl to be prostittute and call her daughter of devil and you this its cool. How does that father is being eduative by such actions.

Sharaf Al-Ghirafi, head of the Women and Child Protection Committee at the Ministry of Social Affairs, said the issue hasn t reached a crisis stage yet.
Yeah we see Rania Al-Baz hopping from one airport to another making statements on Tv's and earning her cheap fame. Yet the situation is still not a crisis.

It is still individual cases, she said. We are an Islamic conservative society that will never mistreat children to the extent that make them leave the house or run away.
One word, BULLSHIT

However, she said, those few cases usually occur among teenagers and due to either family problems or peer pressure. Some girls, she said, do not actually run away from their houses, they just go to a coffee shop with their friends after school but without their family s permission, forcing parents report them absent.
What a nonsense, does staying away for few hours count as missing. Thats was a very poor attempt to coverup miss. Dont they have mobile phones to report to parents. And how much time does a human spends in coffe shop, 1 hour, 2 hours, 3, 4, 6???? is that the parents threshold to report their kids missing. Well most parents with such low threshold simply belive their daughters a prostitues.

But sometimes, she said, girls and young women run away when they are a subject to domestic violence or psychological abuse. Her administration, she said, usually works in cooperation with the police, the Committee for the Promotion of Virtue and the Prevention of Vice and the Ministries of Health and Education to deal with those cases. When a girl is arrested, they call the family and investigate the reasons behind her running away.
If you were really doing this job, then you wouldnt be making such nonsense ignorant comments above. What a self contradiction.

We work hard to calm down both sides to bring them together, Ghirafi said. The aim is to increase their level of awareness about the possible results of such a behavior on both social and individual level.

Abeer, (not her real name), is now 22 years old. She recalled when she ran away from her family because of her addicted father's sexual harassment.

One night I was woken up by a hand that closed my mouth and another one trying to find its way to take my clothes off, Abeer said. I called my father but he did not reply. Actually, he was the one trying to take the most precious thing in my life. Since then my younger sister and I could not sleep at night thinking that he might attack any of us anytime.
But your social experts belive that your father might be doing this for educational reason. What was he trying to teach?? Anyone's imagination at work??

Abeer told her divorced mother but she could not help because she was married to another man who does not allow her to have any contact with her children. The father s attempts to rape his daughters went on and on with no help. One day, she said, she saw him trying to drag her younger sister telling her that he will buy her a doll if she let him do whatever he wants.
Well when you have a society of extreme segration and women coverd like jewels, then you will have such deprived men willing to do anything and anyone. By the way, didn't the Mutaw'a Ministry issued a verdict saying doll is haram??

I got scared and I pulled and hid my sister behind me to receive tons of slaps on my face, Abeer said. When he got tired he went to bed and slept.
Atleast it was an appreciative steps when your own social experts and authorities wont come to help or even admit the exsistence of problems. But then they will argue that the father was trying to teach something to his daughters so its human breed in two different directions.

Abeer left the house at night walking a long distance to the police station. Officers took her to an orphanage where she was kept with her sister.
But no arrest of for the offender!!! where is your islamic justice???

The shelter was a suitable place for a while, she said, but after several months it turned into a prison where they have to follow rules that were difficult.

We had to wear and eat whatever they brought us, she said, I was not allowed to visit or see my friend at school.

Abeer left the orphanage to live at her uncle s house. She got married and took her sister with her but she still carries those memories.

Those bad memories will never leave my mind, she said. I did not know where to go: to an addicted father or to a big prison. There was not a middle road for a solution.

Ghirafi said there is no protection shelter in Madinah. When they shift girls from the home, which is rare, they send them to orphanages or charity organizations.

Those orphanages are established based on a family-like system where they can find a warm atmosphere similar to that of the family, she said.

But generally speaking there is nothing like a family, she said.

Hanan Mugbool, a social worker at the Psychological Health Hospital in Jeddah, agreed that those cases are only individual ones despite the lack of accurate statistics. Girls who run away are either drug addicts or psychologically unstable girls, she added.Very good interpretion and a coward attempt again to deny the problem of family abuse.

The cases are transferred to us either from the police or the orphanages, she said.
The Psychological Health Hospital is not prepared for receiving such cases as permanent residents.

She classified running away girls under two categories: A complete runaway is when a girl flees with her lover in order to get married due to the family rejection, which is rare. The second type is partial fleeing when a girl runs away for a month or so due to domestic violence or increasing pressure. She said most of the Saudi cases fall under the second category because of the lack of permanent shelters like those in the West.
Then where do the cases of above mention girls fit in. None of them flee homes to get married or on temporary basis

In the Western countries, a girl can leave the house and lead an independent life after 18, she said. But in our conservative society they cannot.
Better called, retarded slaveminded society

To avoid the dramatic increase in those cases that would affect the fabric of the society structure, Mugbool called for more strict legal procedures to protect girls from physical or emotional abuse from their male relatives.
Yeah right, all talk and no actions. Just give women their rights and freedom and cut the root of the problem away.

The family has to be more open to the natural social change and accept the fact that their children belong to a different generation from theirs, she said, This does not mean leaving them without supervision. They have to be indirectly supervised and taught right and wrong, she said.
When your nation is compromised of such retard minded sick people, no wonder your future generations are also goin to be waste of human flesh on earth